As you move forward through life, it is so easy to forget the essential thread that holds everything together - the relationship you have with yourself. Yep. That is the root of everything you have or don't have in your life.
Your self worth serves as a ceiling for your potential. It dictates the things you are capable of and limits your growth. Today, I want to dive into the importance of nurturing your relationship with yourself, and give you some things you can start doing today to elevate your self love.
The Foundation of Your Success
Before we start talking about how to gain more self worth, first you need to understand the concept itself. Self worth isn't just a feel-good phrase. I feel like it has become diluted in society, as the term is just thrown around. Your self worth is the foundation on which your accomplishments, relationships, and overall happiness are built. It's the lens through which you perceive yourself and the world around you.
Reflecting on Your Self-Perception
Take a moment to reflect on how you view yourself. Are you your own biggest cheerleader, or your own harshest critic? This relationship sets the tone for all the other relationships in your life. The more you truly fall in love with who you are, the deeper and more meaningful your relationships will get.
The Biggest Mistake I See
I look around at the world, at my friends, at people on social media, and I see this mistake everywhere. People are trying to change their lives by working backward. They're trying to set boundaries, go to the gym, wake up earlier, and DO, DO, DO. You can not simply do things with the hope that they will make you love yourself. There are 2 steps that need to be done before all the DOING.
1. Awareness. The first step to changing absolutely anything about your life is first having a deep awareness of it. Not only of your patterns, but the deeper meaning of why they are there.
2. Acceptance. The second step is acceptance. Acceptance and understanding of these patterns. Allowing all parts of you to be present, whether you perceive them as good or bad. All of you needs to be welcome, not just the good parts.
3. From this new, elevated place of awareness and acceptance, the ACTION (all the doing) will become natural. Let me give you an example:
Let's say you feel unlovable, so you try forcing yourself to go to the gym to try and lose weight. It works for a week or two, then you fall off, and you're right back to square one. (sound familiar? I've been there MANY times.)
Instead, you take a step back, slow down, and sit with yourself. (step 1- awareness) You build awareness about the fact that you eat when you're emotional, and you punish yourself by not going to the gym. You unconsciously have been thinking, "I don't deserve to be loved; I'm a mess who just overeats and has no discipline."
Then, you don't judge yourself for this pattern. (step 2- acceptance) You see it, observe it, notice it, and allow it. You nurture the part of you that is hurting, that doesn't think they're worthy of being loved. You create space for that part of you to be seen and heard. (by YOU!)
All that part of you really wants is to be accepted and loved, right?
So the MOMENT you start to give that to yourself, the patterns/bad habits dissipate. You start to get inspired to go for walks more. You recognize that emotional part of you that reaches for food, and instead, you spend time sitting with her. Before you know it, you've reached your goals.
Do you see how that's different? All you wanted consciously was to be seen and loved by others. All you needed unconsciously was to be seen and loved by you.
I know this can seem confusing, but it doesn't have to be.
My 7 day course From Critic to Ally was created for this exact reason. To simplify the path to real self love.
You don't need to do a million different things. That's overwhelming and exhausting. My purpose on Earth is to guide you to a life where you're happy, feel loved, and feel worthy of everything you could ever imagine.
(in only 15-30 minutes per day!)
You deserve a life you love, free of the burdens you've been carrying. It is possible for you. I promise.